Solutions for Marital Problems
Hope for Your Marriage
Chapter One of the Book
Help for Relationship Blockers
John Eckenwiler has appeared twice on "The Balancing Act" on the Lifetime TV Network
John talks about his book and the 3 key elements to marital success
John answer's questions from the audience the 2nd.
PREVENT DIVORCE FOR A LASTING MARRIAGE
There are so many things in life that can erode your marital commitment. If you knew you could eliminate all these things, what would keep from doing it? Like anything you do in life, there is a cost involved. The bigger the goal, the bigger the price. Getting married is one of the most important things you will ever do in life, so being prepared to pay the price to make it last just makes sense. On page 32 of the book, I share the stories of two couples with almost identical problems. Both husbands spent large amounts of time away from their lovely wives, so much so that it became a huge issue threatening to destroy their marriages. I go on to explain, "One of these couples worked things out and the other did not. Paul was truly not aware that his habits came across as selfish; that's just how he lived. Once the couple was able to discuss it calmly, he began to see that his approach to life was the problem.
Bob, on the other hand, had made his bed and he was determined to lay in it. He made some adjustment to his behavior, but they were the minimum to be able to say he did it. His attitude was no different and there were still times he just did whatever he wanted. Betty acknowledged the improvements, but the efforts were too little too late. She stayed miserable.
The good news about your marriage is that you can do something to guarantee it will last. You can learn what does and doesn't work, and be willing to learn how you need to do things differently. This can be uncomfortable - no, painful - but look at the reward! Take the time to explore the information on this web site, learn from others, get the book, make it your ambition and don't let the culture around you fool into a false sense of security. Don't be another divorce statistic - instead, choose to among the few truly happily married couples who have learned how to have a fulfilling and lasting marriage.
Have you ever felt deep disappointment in your spouse?
What about feeling
- rejected
- jealous
- resentful
- distant
- angry or
- just plain hurt?
If you're human, you have felt most if not all these things to some extent. These can destroy the foundation of your marriage, and it can happen right under your nose. Once the foundation is weakened, adversity and temptation start to have a stronger impact. Even if you profess to believe in God, it is easy for you or your partner to become preoccupied with feelings and circumstances. This blocks the power of your belief.
This book is about getting back to your basic belief in God and living consistently with that belief. You will get to the very center of your marriage and make discoveries that will keep you from being another divorce statistic. You will learn many practical relationship tools. But even more importantly, you will learn what makes people want to give up in marriage and show you what you can do about it. So whether your interest is preventive or your need is more urgent, you will be challenged to be a better marriage partner than ever before and strengthen the very foundation of your marriage.
If you are in a serious relationship - or thinking about it - this book is for you. If you aren't married yet or contemplating remarriage, this book will show you what to look for in a partner and in yourself. If you are married or engaged, this book provides a solid template for you to evaluate your strengths and weaknesses, then set about making your relationship fully shatterproof.
Order the book "Shatterproof Your Marriage" Here!
Shatterproof your Marriage - What Makes Couples Want to Give Up and How to Prevent it.
a book John Eckenwiler, LMFT- Licensed Marriage and Family Counselor LMFC
Approved
Supervisor, AAMFT, a Member of the Colorado Association of Marriage and Family Therapy and
The
American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy.
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